why isn't Counselling 101 part of the essential modules that everyone has to take in some point of their life?
you know how people always have the misconception that psychologists can read others' mind?
it's not that tough, actually
it just boils down to listening to what others have to say, and to take notice of the other person's actions. remember what he/she tells you.

but i have realised that not everyone is able to do it.
because it's a skill to listen to someone. to just listen and not give your own input. to put the other person's needs above your own. to focus on the other person.

i can listen to someone talk.
i can focus and put the other party's need above my own.
but who notices me?

Labels: emo, thoughts

I had a very happening Valentine's Day yesterday.
First of all, I had to make a Tiramisu for the potluck due at my house last night.



Because it was so rushed, not everything was done. I took a few short cuts here and there, but overall the reviews weren't too bad. Thankfully ah, if not I'll feel quite bad. 'Cause it's supposed to be ling's bday cake~



haha.. see how happy she is with the 'cake'... I even had candles at home for her.. But women being women, we decided that it's not too nice to reveal her age. 1 small candle will do...
managed to do a mini celebration for her. didn't go out since it's likely to be super crowded everywhere we go - it IS vday afterall. Don't want to go out and 人挤人 with all the lovers out there.

However, I still managed to get into the love-is-in-the-air crowd yesterday, with a KTV session in the morning and shopping-cum-nuaing session with loo.

Andy jio-ed us to go KTV yday, and joined by me cerise & ss. Personally, I think we had quite a 'high' session yday. With Andy around, it's a little difficult not to get high.. haa..




Because I am the photographer, so there's no photo of myself. haha.. too bad la, I don't like to take photos that much.. I'm fat and 自卑... *sobs*

Managed to meet up with loo for a short while in the afternoon. She accompanied me to get a present for ling. We decided to nua at the Starbucks near Shaw, since she prefers Starbucks.. and Starbucks has my Green Tea Soy Latte..





Went to Bugis after the Starbucks..since loo wanted to go Bugis.. So Bugis we went!!! Walked around Bugis, and loo told me what she wants as a vday present.. looks very nice, but she don't want the big one.. I told her the big one is nice, but she shy.. wahahahha..
girl ah.. big one is nice ma.. you ah, so silly~ =)

I needed to leave Bugis by 6 already, but I was supposed to collect a present from someone... Gotta wait for a call before I can leave.. Was very worried, 'cause the girls are waiting for me at Lot1..then i'm still stuck at Bugis cannot leave...

So at 645, the person I was supposed to meet finally came.. Passed me the present, we exchanged a few words, and I had to leave for CCK with loo..

I was supposed to call the giver of the present before opening it.. So I sent loo off before settling nicely on the train and made the call..
Hmm.. he already told me last night that it's just chocolate, 'cause he's broke liao.. But he insisted on me calling him before opening the present once I got it.. Somemore he said, giving chocolates to me in front of my friends very bo seh..
Oh well.. the call finally got through, but the reception a little bad..

ME: Eh.. I got the present already..

HIM: Oh you got already ah? Have you opened it?

ME: Haven't la.. you told me to call you before I open it right? So I never open lor..

HIM: Oh okok.. now you can open the present liao..

ME: Hmm ok.. you wait ah.. (Opens the wrapper.. and found another layer of newspaper inside..) Eh.. got another layer of newspaper leh..

HIM: Huh is it? Haha.. I only told him to wrap, the newspaper not I tell him one.. Ok then you open the newspaper la..

ME: Hmm.. Wah wrap until very tight leh.. Your brother 耍我啊... Somemore it's 一整份晚报 leh.. 很厚啦!

HIM: Haha.. So you open the present already?

ME: Ya I open already.. (He told me it's gonna be chocolate, and IT IS chocolate la.. So having seen the present, I put it back into the bag..) [see picture of chocolate aka Ferrero Rocher below]



HIM: Eh ya lor.. I no money liao, so have to get my brother to buy chocolate lor.. You don't mind right?

ME: It's ok la.. You no money liao ma.. Better save up your money, no need to waste the money on present la..

HIM: Hmm you really don't mind ah.. Eh to show that you don't mind, you eat one la..

ME: Siao ah, I'm on the MRT leh.. you want to pay the S$500 for me ah? haha..then you'll be more broke lor.. Cannot la..

HIM: Haha..then you must at least open the chocolate la.. Sorry leh, I can only afford Ferrero Rocher..

ME: (Opens the Ferrero Rocher..but realises that the tape on packaging looks like it's been opened before already..) Never mind la.. It's the thought that counts ma.. (Looks under every single Ferrero, but nothing extra.. Looks like normal Ferrero ma...)

HIM: You take one up and eat la..

ME: Cannot..I'm on the train..

HIM: Then you open up lor.. You at least open 1 lor..

ME: Hmm which one..?

HIM: The middle one la..

ME: (opens up the middle Ferrero..) Eh.. What is this???

Ok so it wasn't a normal present like it seemed to be.. There's something extra inside and the Ferrero is to make me sian diao that he gave such a simple present.. Ok la, I have to admit that it did work to a certain extent.. I suspected something more but was disappointed when it DOES look like it's just a normal Ferrero.

But...got extra present lor..



=)

Happy Valentine's Day...

Labels: food, friends, pictures, relationship

Valentine's Day's coming! I can feel it already!! hahaha..

Because this delivery guy knocked on our doors and sent flowers to my office!!! But he was asking for Veronica Goh.. -.-

There's no Veronica Goh in my office la! *sads* The bouquet's meant for the office next door. And all 3 of us ladies were kaypoh-ing and standing at our door, looking out for the lucky lady who received flowers.

but no one answered the door la. I think they're out, since they're seldom in. So...we told the delivery guy we'll take the flowers for her and pass it to her later! haha.. Me n Dian excited looked at the flowers and wondered who sent them.. I had to tell her: 'Boyfriend la!!'; to which April said it could be the husband.. haha..

I offered to contact their boyfriends and husbands, to order flowers and have it delivered to our office.

GUYS OUT THERE!
go order flowers for your girlfriend! Don't cite excuses like: "I don't have time la." You can order online...like what this sweet guy did for my fellow colleague: http://1800onlines.com/
and if you say you have no money, there's a special discount for tertiary students...no more excuses!!!! =)

it's just once a year...go on and spend a little to make this day special for her..

Labels: relationship

I was studying in my room when my mom walked into my room and asked me if I have a backpack. So I pointed out one of my cupboards to her and asked her to take it out herself.

Being my mom, she happily opened my cupboard and started to take out my bags. But me being me, my things are packed to the brim and it's not that easy to put it back. So I told my mom (in Hokkien): 你要拿出来就要会放回去hor。我不会帮你放回去的咯。

Mommy laughed heartily and proceeded to drag out all my bags..

Me: “Eh! 你全部拉出来，then 你等一下一定不会放回去的咯。”

Still, mommy carried on laughing heartily and continued to drag all my bags out...

Mommy: “哎呀，我就是不会做贼咯。”

In the end ah, when mommy finally which bag she wants, she proceeded to arrange the stuff in my cupboard back to its original positions; and she realised that things don't fit in anymore....

Me: “你看！我跟你讲你一定放不回去得咯。”

Mommy (laughing): “哈哈哈。哎哟很惨leh。 不懂为什么，我就是不会做贼leh。”

Me: “han nah!! wa diu gang li gong li bang bue lid liao lor. jin e si hor li ki pai ah.”
(translates from Hokkien to English:Yar lar! I already told you that you won't be able to put it back. Really angry one lehs..)

Mommy (laughs non-stop): "Wa, li e Hokkien jin ho hor."
(Wah, your Hokkien is very good hor)

Me: "Han nah. Li dad pai ma boy-boy ma si a ni kuan ma e."
(Yar lar, that's how you scold boy boy all the time)
(Boy boy = the naughty nephew at home)

My mom is so funny...

Labels: family

like I said, I'm more motivated to update when I changed my template; because I want to see movement in my blog.. haha..

yesterday, I realised that I have not had a proper meal in ages. real proper one like rice and vege and meat. haha..
like monday, I only had oats in the morning, then Mr Bean pancake in the afternoon and a Mr Bean biscuit at night for dinner. It's so random lor, and I don't feel like I ate anything.

haven't had a proper run in ages. decided to have a run yesterday and it started to rain. carried on running though, and the feeling of jogging in the rain brings me back to when I was younger..

I miss JC days. I really do; those were the most carefree days of my life thus far..

I have so many decisions I need to make. So far, I think I've come to a conclusion for some. There are many more I need to make, but I think I can get over it. In the meantime, I shall concentrate on the tasks on hand first. Shall not worry too much about what's going to come..

By July, everything should be pretty much sorted out..
If things can go according to my plan, July should be a time for change.

So looking forward to it~
my only motivation...

Labels: thoughts

it's amazing how changing my template always make me feel happier
and I haven't done it for ages.
now i feel more motivated to update my blog. haha..

this song has been playing in my head the whole day.
or rather, this sentence..
爱一个人最后怎会这么的可笑

so many things going on in my life..
so much negativity..

sometimes, I guess the only positivity in my life is the people who showed their concern for me.
he who is worried about me when I do not reply, especially when he knows I'm down.
and she who supports me when I msg her and confide in her.

how do you tell when someone is lying to you?
lie detectors are proven not to work. Detection of Deception methods does not work.
not when the person is bent on lying to you.
people can get so good at lying, you don't even know what is true and what is not.

modern technology has a play in it.
we send sms-es and msn all the time, we no longer communicate face to face.
so how do we look at the person in the eye and make him/her show his/her sincerity?
we can't. so we're now good at lying, and bad at detecting the lies.

too much pretense in my life.
too many false fronts.
and not everyone can look at it the same way as you.
others might not think that the situation is that bad, but who are they to decide for you?
who are others to decide if you're hurt, whether you should leave or stay?

there's so much anger, so much hatred in me.
it's the kind that, you just want to take revenge on the whole world.
and make everyone pay for the kind of pain you're going through.

it's the kind that, 就算俩败俱伤都无所谓
你就是要他/她付出所应得的代价。
因为不甘心。你不甘心就让他能不负责任。

可是女人啊！值得吗？
为了一口气而放弃你的尊严
还是因为尊严受到威胁所以不能就这么算了。
是要为自己争一口气吗？
因为不能就这样让人欺负你。是要证明自己吗？

it's so irritating and stifling..

Labels: emo, thoughts